It's been, like, a really long time, so I think I needed this, whatever it is, so thank you.

Of course I did, but not by going out to sea or spending time with mentally unstable war veterans.

As Joan says, we're friends and friends can spend time in each other's company without prurience rearing its head.

But what was interesting about this position I found myself in in Arizona, was I had this really extraordinarily eclectic group of kids to work with in a truly public school, and we got to have these moments where we would get these opportunities.

(Music) If you do nothing else but to cultivate that response to the great gift that this unique day is, if you learn to respond as if it were the first day in your life and the very last day, then you will have spent this day very well.

Sudesh invented this glove after observing former leprosy patients as they carried out their day-to-day activities, and he learned about the risks and the hazards in their environment.

The explore/exploit trade-off shows up any time you have to choose between trying something new and going with something that you already know is pretty good, whether it's listening to music or trying to decide who you're going to spend time with.

Every year in the United States alone, 2, 077, 000 couples make a legal and spiritual decision to spend the rest of their lives together -- (Laughter) And not to have sex with anyone else.

Picking your family is about consciously choosing who and what you want rather than just making it work or killing time with whoever happens to be choosing you.

Derek's going to L.A. soon, and it's a milestone, because it means that Derek and I will have spent over 100 hours on long-haul flights together, which is quite interesting, isn't it Derek?

So my husband has fond memories of talking to and playing with and generally being around his deceased grandfather, and for him there is nothing unnatural about this.

Mothers now spend more time with their children than they did in 1965, when most women were not even in the workforce.

Now, it had taken several days for this detail to come to light, and I realized that there was no natural animosity between the two of us.

This is them actually on the first day that they met, which is amazing, and since then, they've spent a lot of time together visiting with other veterans suffering from similar issues.

By living in such a way, by working without any structure, I was able to react to the moment and to decide, oh, this is important to make now.

The only wish you expressed, the only thing you ever asked of me in all those months we spent together, was for me to speak to you in Korean.

In order to work on this question and to figure out how someone goes from meeting on a date to having a life together, Stacey and I went to Sun City Summerlin, which is the largest retirement community in Las Vegas.

Because -- especially people you've known a long time, people you've spent time with -- I can see the spiritual essence inside them, the tenderness, the vulnerability.

But over and over, over these 75 years, our study has shown that the people who fared the best were the people who leaned in to relationships, with family, with friends, with community.

And it's very, very important that we get this right, because we might be living inside of these things for at least as long as we've lived with the Windows graphical user interface.

So what they do is, let's say you take two people who meet up, and they take the number of days those two people spent together, and then they estimate how many hours were in those days -- how many hours did those two people spend together?

So there he went, and there he spent his days alone, writing letters and letters to the French government begging them to reopen his case so they could discover his innocence.

It confronts us with profound questions, questions we might be too lazy or distracted to ask in times of relative comfort.

If before I was resisting, then now I was surrendering, giving up trying to control the uncontrollable and just being there in it with her.

It's a place where families can stay together to enjoy quality time with their children, many of whom are there for respite stays, some with repeated visits over a span of many years.

So while you can see one of my challenges is my size, seeing does not mean you understand what it's truly to be me on a daily basis, or what I go through.

What would be the perfect timeline that might include something later, would be time well spent for you here at TED in your last day here?

That's where hobbies happen, where we have close relationships, where we really think about our lives, where we get creative, where we zoom back and try to work out whether our lives have been meaningful.

(Laughter) My father may have mentioned that he was going to spend eternity in a very fiery place if he didn't find my name on that checklist.

And we spent -- I was with a team -- two weeks with these guys out in the jungle watching them hunt.

Just suppose, as I said, that we do acquire -- let's say we do it today for the sake of argument -- the ability to confer 30 extra years of healthy life on people who are already in middle age, let's say 55.

I spent, you know, several weeks with all these actors, producers, and the problems they have to go through are unimaginable for, you know, a Westerner, a filmmaker who works in America or in Europe.

Merwin, which he wrote after he saw his wife working in the garden and realized that they would spend the rest of their lives together.

Now, of all the peoples that I've ever been with, the most extraordinary are the Kogi of the Sierra Nevada de Santa Marta in northern Colombia.

And the year I went to school, my father actually got a job with a non-governmental organization called IRDNC, Integrated Rural Development and Nature Conservation.

In practical terms, we could, for example, use public money to pay a health fee to an insurance company for every day a single individual is kept healthy and doesn't develop a disease or doesn't require any other form of acute medical intervention.

And since she could not have the heroin of actually being with Rich, her unconscious mind chose the methadone of her memories with him.

You'll be more present with your friends, more engaged with your family, not to mention the billions of dollars of compromised productivity in the workplace that could be avoided.